Change of Perspective

Musings on Writing, Reading, and Life Narratives

Fiction writers and literary critics speak of point of view. Social scientists are more likely to discuss perspective. But both of these terms refer to essentially the same construct: the consciousness behind the perception and narration of experience. Each individual’s point of view is unique, and point of view shapes the stories people tell to themselves and to others about themselves and their relationships with their environment. The same event narrated from two different perspectives will produce two different stories.


A change of perspective can expand our perception and reframe our thinking about our experiences. We can all benefit from an occasional change of perspective.


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Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Book Review: A Writer's Space

Maisel, Eric. A Writer's Space.

Avon, MA: Adams Media, 2008
ISBN 1-59869-460-X

Recommended


In this little (5.5 in. wide by 6.25 in. tall) book Maisel, a therapist and creativity coach, uses the metaphor of space “to communicate how you can get a grip on your writing life and transform yourself from an occasional writer to a regular writer” (p. 3). All your writing space needs, he says, is “a chair, a table, silence, and a little awe” (p. 5).

Maisel divides his discussion into nine sections:

  1. physical space
  2. home space
  3. mind space
  4. emotional space
  5. reflective space
  6. imagined space
  7. public space
  8. existential space
  9. epilogue: creative space: a writing fable


This book is not about the craft or the mechanics of writing (e.g., punctuation, sentence structure). In fact, the weakest section is “imagined space,” where Maisel touches briefly on such issues of composition (probably in an effort to fill out the book’s contents a bit). No, this book is about the mind-set necessary to become a committed, productive writer.

One of the most useful parts of this book is chapter 14, “creative mindfulness,” in which Maisel distinguishes between traditional mindfulness--”the nonjudgmental observation and acknowledgment of our thoughts” (p. 81)--and creative mindfulness, the purpose of which is “to master mindfulness . . . and to employ that mastery in the service of deep thought, rich action, and wide-awake living” (p. 83). He identifies six principles of creative mindfulness:

  1. Fearlessly observe your own thoughts.
  2. Detach from the thoughts you are thinking.
  3. Appraise your thoughts.
  4. Restate your intentions based on your appraisal.
  5. Free your neurons, empty your mind, and ready yourself for creating.
  6. Explode into your work.

These six steps can help you bring creative mindful intention to your work, which will, in turn, make you a better and more productive writer.

Another particularly useful section of the book is chapter 16, “the weight of individuality,” in which Maisel briefly--perhaps a bit TOO briefly--addresses the common theme of the association between artistic creativity and mental instability:
Nature is not stupid. Nature makes the calculation that, for an individual to truly be individual, it had better invest him with enough power, passion, energy, and appetite to manifest that individuality. . . . It should also be clear how this extra energy and fuller appetite lead to conditions such as addiction, mania, and insatiability. (p. 99)

Fortunately, Maisel follows this chapter with another on “quick centering,” a method you can use “to center and quiet your mind and your emotions by taking ten-second pauses” (p. 103).

You’ll have to get your grammar help elsewhere. But for information on how to be in the world as a writer, check out this little book.

©2008 by Mary Daniels Brown

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Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Please pass the Hydrox!

Last Friday, while visiting a friend in Connecticut, I walked into a grocery store and there they were: stacks of boxes of Hydrox cookies!



Even as a child I preferred Hydrox to the cloyingly sweet Oreo. The Hydrox chocolate wafers were not very sweet, and biting into a Hydrox produced a subtle but distinct contrast between the not-very-sweet cookies and the sweeter (but not nearly so overwhelmingly sweet as Oreo) creme filling. Oreos, and other products like them, have contributed to Americans' desire for overwhelming sweetness in everything: cookies, cereals, fruit drinks, even toothpaste and over-the-counter medications.

But for the more discerning palate, Hydrox cookies are back, at least for a little while. Kellogg Company has reissued them for a limited run in honor of their 100th anniversary.

Hydrox cookies were introduced as the first creme-filled chocolate sandwich cookie in 1908 by Loose-Wiles Biscuit Company, which later became Sunshine Biscuit Company. Looking for a name that went well with sunshine, the company combined the beginnings of hydrogen and oxygen, the components of water with its connotations of purity and cleanliness. In 1996 Keebler purchased Sunshine Biscuit Company and renamed the cookies Hydrox Ddroxies. In 1999 Keebler reformulated the cookies and called them must Droxies. In 2003 the company stopped making the cookies but, in response to public demand, has brought back Hydrox for a limited time in honor of its 100th anniversary.

Find out more at hydroxcookies.com

And in the meantime, get to your local grocery store. When they're gone, they're gone for good.

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Tuesday, August 26, 2008

As I Turn 60. . .

Happy birthday to me! Sixty years ago today, I was born--on the first day of a heat wave, as my mother delights in pointing out nearly every year.

Having now reached the age when wrinkles traditionally denote wisdom, I've accumulated a few nuggets of knowledge. Since it's my birthday, I'm going to claim the right of self-indulgence and share them with you:

(1) True friends are rare and special, and I should cherish each one.

(2) Contrary to the American myth, you cannot be whatever you want. I will never be an artist. Although I've done some drop-dead gorgeous needlework in my time, I cannot draw a lick. But I have learned to look for my strengths and then maximize them.

(3) We are not all created equal. Some people can draw. I can't. I've learned to live with this shortcoming.

(4) No matter how good I am at something, there's always someone else who's better. I've learned to live with this, too.

(5) Freud may have been wrong about infant sexuality, but he was dead on about our psychological defense mechanisms.

(6) You cannot have it all. You would not want to: You'd be overwhelmed. Figure out what's important to you, then go after it with zeal and passion.

(7) There are always as many sides to every story as there are participants.

(8) You cannot overcome every obstacle in life by sheer willpower. Learn how to figure out what help you need. Then learn to ask for that help. When you refuse to ask for help, you deny someone else the opportunity to be helpful.

(9) We are what we do. Actions speak louder than words. We demonstrate our true character through our behavior. Try to perform more good than bad actions.

(10) When I find a rut I like, it dig in deep and stay put as long as possible. Such routines are comforting, but change will occur whether we want it to or not. In fact, the more we want things not to change, the more they probably will. I try to view these occurrences as opportunities and embrace them.

(11) The world is a big place, and it can sometimes be scary. But you have to be willing to put yourself out there [apologies to Dr. Phil], to meet new people and try new things.

(12) However, it's also OK to enjoy being alone. What's important is to find a balance that's comfortable for you.

(13) "If you want something done right, do it yourself" is not always good advice. Learn to delegate. Then learn to be happy with "good enough." Perfectionism causes ulcers and high anxiety.

(14) Love and friendship are never wasted. Even when formerly good relationships go south, having experienced the good times is priceless [apologies to MasterCard].

(15) Say "I love you" to the people you care about. Say it out loud and say it often.

(16) Despite the lack of visible welts or scars, verbal and emotional abuse of children cuts just as deeply as physical abuse and should be equally condemned.

(17) Once you begin to look for meaning, synchronicity will occur.

(18) Trust your gut. Every time I've ignored my intuition, I've regretted it.

(19) What you send forth into the Universe is what the Universe will ultimately give back to you.

(20) Embrace life's mysteries. Expect to be surprised.

© 2008 by Mary Daniels Brown

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Monday, August 11, 2008

Knowing When to Keep Your Mouth Shut

NBCOlympics.com - Lezak's classic finish delivers gold



My daughter was a competitive swimmer, so we're always interested in the Olympic swimming coverage. But even if you're not a swimming fan, or even a sports fan, this story is worth seeing.

The French men's 4x100 freestyle relay team had boasted that they would smash the Americans in the championship race. Never mind that the American's second team had set a new world record in the event preliminaries. Even NBC commentator Rowdy Gaines said, "I've figured this race on paper at least 20 times, and I don't see any way the Americans can win it."

If you didn't see this race on TV las night (and even if you did), go to the NBC Olympics Web site and watch the video to see how the Americans DID manage to win it, in about the last inch of the pool's length. This is one of the most thrilling Olympic moments you'll ever see. And not only did the Americans win the gold medal, but the top five finishing all broke the world record that had been set in prelims. Imagine breaking a world record and coming in fifth, not even winnning a medal.

Note to Rowdy Gaines: This is why they work the races out in the pool and not on paper.

Note to the French swimmers: Sometimes it's best to keep quite and let your actions speak for themselves.

Note to everybody: Never underestimate the heart of a champion.

Saturday, August 9, 2008

Novel Journey: Author, Psychotherapist Dennis Palumbo ~ Interviewed

Novel Journey: Author, Psychotherapist Dennis Palumbo ~ Interviewed

Former Hollywood screenwriter Dennis Palumbo is now a psychotherapist, book reviewer, and author of both nonfiction books about writing and crime fiction. In his psychotherapy practice he specializes in working with creative people.

Because of my own occasional experience with writer's block, I was most interested in what he has to say on this topic:

Funny you should mention writer’s block, because I hold an unconventional view about it: namely, I think that writer’s block is good news for a writer! In my view, a ‘block’ is merely a stage in your growth in craft as a writer, similar to the developmental stages we all go through as we mature in life.

Just as a toddler needs to struggle---risking and failing over and over, as he or she learns to walk---so too does a writer experiencing a ‘block’ need to learn to navigate and master that particular developmental stage in his or her work. Perhaps the writer is trying to write a more complicated plot than usual, or is delving into difficult personal/sexual material for the first time. Whatever.

And I think the proof that a block is a necessary developmental step in a writer’s growth is that, in my experience, after writers have worked through a block, they report feeling that they’ve grown as writers, that they’re more confident about their craft, or that the work has become more personally relevant.

What a refreshingly different perspective: writer's block as opportunity rather than infirmity. And what he says makes perfectly good sense. I have noticed writer's block seems to set in most often when I'm trying to do something I haven't done before. In my case the blockage most often develops when I'm dealing with sensitive personal material and/or trying to write in a more personal voice than I'm commonly comfortable with. I'm grateful to Palumbo for making me realize this and also for enabling me to see writer's block as a growth opportunity rather than a stumbling block.

There's much more of interest here, so jump on over and read the entire interview.

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Former Football Player Writes Book about His Dissociative Identity Disorder

Walker on mission | Denton Record-Chronicle | News for Denton County, Texas | Local News

Herschel Walker, winner of the Heisman Trophy (an award for college football players) and former member of the Dallas Cowboys, has written a book about his experience with dissociative identity disorder (DID, commonly known as multiple personality disorder) and his efforts to overcome the disorder. He has been touring to promote the book, Breaking Free: My Life with Dissociative Identity Disorder. This article reports on his appearance in Denton, TX, in association with University Behavioral Health (UBH) of Denton:

‘He [Walker] has a mission for himself of bringing a message out to people who have mental health issues, that it’s a strength to ask for help, not a weakness,’ said UBH of Denton Chief Executive Officer Susan Young. ‘He wants people to know he’s had issues and he sees that as something very positive. He doesn’t want anybody to be uncomfortable or ashamed.’

Walker's own condition surfaced about 10 years ago, when he suddenly developed anger problems. His search for the cause of his problem finally led to the diagnosis of DID. He wants to let people with mental health issues, including substance abuse, know that it's all right to seek help. He is critical of the National Football League's substance abuse policy, which, he says, suspends players for abuse without providing treatment.

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Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Journal Writing

I promised you an entry about journal writing, and here it is. For now, I'm once again collecting here a couple of entries from other blogs about how and why to keep a journal.

Writing Your Life

Heather Goldsmith's blog is all about journal writing. In this particular entry she addresses issues such as these:
  1. Do you plan to have your journals read by other people and/or after you die? If so, Heather advises that you choose proper materials and include meaningful facts and explanations in your entries.
  2. Do you plan to reread your journal entries for guidance in the future? If so, be sure to include details about people, places, and dates so that you'll remember what you were writing about when you reread.

Five Ways Keeping a Journal Can Change Your Life

Over on The Change Blog Ali Hale discusses how writing in a journal for just 10 minutes a day can change your life:
  1. Your journal offers self-insight.
  2. Your journal builds the writing habit.
  3. Your journal is a gift to your future self.
  4. Your journal holds you accountable.
  5. Your journal encourages positive thinking.
But don't just settle for the list. Be sure to visit this blog entry, which includes both explanations and writing exercises for each point.

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